Wednesday, 27 March 2013
Cool Boys Super Sons
Tips no 1: Focus on EFFORT
We know boys can sometimes be overconfident on their abilities and hence we usually see them feeling satisfied with less work / revision as compared to girls (girls tend to be more hardworking). So the author (Jamilah Samian, mother of 5 boys and 1 girl) suggested that when we praise boys, we focus on their efforts, rather than abilities. Eg. if they do well in exams / projects, say
"All that revising pays, isn't it?" rather than "Clever boy! I know it's in you!"
"I can tell that you have been paying attention in class" rather than "Lucky you to be born smart!"
Tips no 2: Boys need high expectations
Boys love challenges. So they are more motivated to do well to meet their parents' expectations rather than to get rewards. Help your son to develop a vision of who he wants to be. Consistently place your son in an environment where he is challenged to do better. And aim for small breakthroughs that will give him a steady sense of achievement.
Tips no 3: Accept them as they are, and turn their weaknesses into strengths.
Whatever character your son is born with, look at it as his strength. Eg if he is talkative, take time to develop his contents of speech and flow of thoughts so he can be a good public speaker. If he is stubborn, he is not easily influenced by others, which is a good quality of a leader. Guide him in decision making and critical thinking to prepare him to be a leader!