This is the last entry for this month's theme (Love/Marriage).
Everyday in our busy lives, we always assume that our loved ones will always come home or be there when we come home.
But Allah tests us often. How ready are we if we were to be tested with the lost of a loved one?
Have you heard of Andre Gorz (a French philosopher)? When his wife, Dorine, was diagnosed with a fatal disease, he took early retirement to spend more time with his wife. In 2006 he wrote a 75-pages love letter to his wife, which became a bestseller after their death. Read the translated extracted version of the love letter here.
I've chosen a paragraph from the letter for us to ponder...
I’d reached the age where you ask yourself what you’ve done with your life, what you would like to have done with it. I had the impression of not having lived my life, of having always observed it at a distance, of having developed only one side of myself and being poor as a person. You were, and always had been, richer than I was. You’d blossomed and grown in every dimension. You were at home in your life; whereas I’d always been in a hurry to move on to the next task, as though our life would only really begin later.
As Andre Gorz had clearly put in words, about how he 'put life on hold'. He and his wife had the 'luxury' of a warning. So they could pick up the pieces they left together and make up for whatever time they had lost.
A luxury indeed, the warning only comes to few of us. Having seen many deaths, I can say that no one was ever prepared for the news. Even the family of a comatose patient.
So, never take your loved ones for granted. Say you love them now.
A year later, on 22 September 2007, Andre and Dorine Gorz committed suicide together by lethal injection.
At night I sometimes see the figure of a man, on an empty road in a deserted landscape, walking behind a hearse. I am that man. It’s you the hearse is carrying away. I don’t want to be there for your cremation; I don’t want to be given an urn with your ashes in it.
*Dengan itu saya menutup tema bulan ini (akan disambung bergantung pada mood saya). Happy Anniversary Honey!
Everyday in our busy lives, we always assume that our loved ones will always come home or be there when we come home.
But Allah tests us often. How ready are we if we were to be tested with the lost of a loved one?
Have you heard of Andre Gorz (a French philosopher)? When his wife, Dorine, was diagnosed with a fatal disease, he took early retirement to spend more time with his wife. In 2006 he wrote a 75-pages love letter to his wife, which became a bestseller after their death. Read the translated extracted version of the love letter here.
I've chosen a paragraph from the letter for us to ponder...
I’d reached the age where you ask yourself what you’ve done with your life, what you would like to have done with it. I had the impression of not having lived my life, of having always observed it at a distance, of having developed only one side of myself and being poor as a person. You were, and always had been, richer than I was. You’d blossomed and grown in every dimension. You were at home in your life; whereas I’d always been in a hurry to move on to the next task, as though our life would only really begin later.
As Andre Gorz had clearly put in words, about how he 'put life on hold'. He and his wife had the 'luxury' of a warning. So they could pick up the pieces they left together and make up for whatever time they had lost.
A luxury indeed, the warning only comes to few of us. Having seen many deaths, I can say that no one was ever prepared for the news. Even the family of a comatose patient.
So, never take your loved ones for granted. Say you love them now.
A year later, on 22 September 2007, Andre and Dorine Gorz committed suicide together by lethal injection.
At night I sometimes see the figure of a man, on an empty road in a deserted landscape, walking behind a hearse. I am that man. It’s you the hearse is carrying away. I don’t want to be there for your cremation; I don’t want to be given an urn with your ashes in it.
*Dengan itu saya menutup tema bulan ini (akan disambung bergantung pada mood saya). Happy Anniversary Honey!
2 comments:
so sweet! good job especially for someone in confinement..heheh. hope all is well with you and the boys.
in confinement with 3 boyz.... jgn risau.. am surviving...
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